We had a
meaningful encounter with a man named John* at the Gay Pride Parade. John
was a kind, unassuming man who was willing to stop and discuss the questions on
our survey. As we went through the first several topics, John gave
relatively basic answers, until we asked him about the importance of gender
roles in society. “Well, I didn’t use to believe they were important, but
now I see that they are.” He slowly began to open up about his difficult
past. John had been born a woman and had identified as a lesbian woman for
fifty years of his life. When he was diagnosed with breast cancer, he
underwent chemotherapy and a double-mastectomy to try to rid his body of the
cancer. After losing his hair to the chemotherapy and losing his breasts,
he continued to dress as a woman, but he was severely ridiculed and harassed
for his appearance, even just walking the streets. He was shocked and
horrified at the persecution he received from strangers “in a place as accepting
as New York.” After a year of being mocked and maltreated, John decided to
take testosterone drugs to make his appearance more masculine, and he began
dressing in more masculine clothing. He now identifies as a transgender,
bisexual man, and he noted how much “simpler” it is this way. As we
continued through the survey, hearing more pieces of John’s story, we eventually
got to ask him about faith. He said somberly, “I love all faiths, but
they don’t all love me.” Our hearts broke for John; my partner and I each
got to give him a hug and share about the incredible love of God for him.
We invited him to Street Life’s Sunday night service,
and we told him we would love to have him there. He thanked us both
sincerely and took our service information. As John walked away, we were
again astounded by the love of the Father: the way God reaches out to the
deepest places of hurt and rejection, and offers His love and healing! We
are praying for healing for John’s body, as his cancer has been diagnosed as stage
four, and we are praying for his salvation, that the love of God and the
freedom in Christ would be made known to him!
*Name has been changed to protect his privacy.
*Name has been changed to protect his privacy.